The Pregnancy Secret

Here’s things that no one tells you. 

 

*Not everyone loves being pregnant. 

*Not everyone bonds with their baby in-utero. 

*Sometimes pregnant women can feel like an alien has invaded their body.

 

Sometimes, not knowing this can really make an expectant mother feel inadequate. It causes worry that they won’t be able to love enough.

 

I have three children. With the first one I worried all the way through my pregnancy that I wasn’t going to have it in me to be a good mother. I worried that I wouldn’t be able to love him enough. I worried that I would never bond. I wondered what was wrong with me. 

 

As soon as he was born, I fell totally in love. He was the center of our world. I couldn’t have loved him more. 

 

The second time around was the same. I loved the older one so much, maybe I wouldn’t be able to make room for another baby. Maybe I wouldn’t be able to love her. I had the same worries the second time around. 

 

But, when she was born, I was in love again and we had a bigger center to our world. 

 

I learned how it worked and the third time around, I still didn’t bond the way all the stories say women do, but I knew that as soon as I held her she would join my center. 

 

Expectant mothers face pressure from within as a baby saps their nutrients, brain cells and strength. But worse are the pressures from outside. The expectations and stories that make them feel inadequate. 

 

Women should build up other women. Everyone’s different and no one should feel less because they aren’t just like someone else. Make your words encouraging.